I’ve decided to join the blog world again after a few months of being on a hiatus, or as some might suggest, a few months of soaking. The past few months have been the most difficult for me; I don’t think I can explain it all in words. Just to give you a brief update; I have been involved as a volunteer and as a staff member at the same church for about 13 years. Recently, I transitioned into a new role; after years of managing ministries from the cradle to the career within the same church. I’m sure you can relate to the hard work and dedication managing, so many ministries would require. Did I mention I served in a mega church with only one other full-time person within my ministry department? After year or so of feeling like I was in a cu-de-sac; I eventually transitioned into a new role. This year due to the recession and decisions my new position was eliminated. This was not the bad part because I knew a transition needed to happen, but how and when? There were many things I was unaware of when you are employed by a non-profit. Number one to my surprise issue ineligible for state unemployment or benefits. To make a long story short 2009 this has been a very interesting year for me.
One question I had to ask myself was, “Will I allow myself to get Bitter or Better”? I’m choosing BETTER! This is a process and I’m working through this decision. Every ministry has its Ups and Downs. If you continue living you will find yourself becoming a part of that experience, good or bad. There is no such thing, as a perfect church, especially if you and I are a part of it. Here are a few things that I’m doing to get over the downs in my life, and my journey to choose Better. My “Better” is knowing the Lord has a Perfect Plan for my life. Those things he has spoken about me before the foundations of the earth will happen. I choose to stay in his perfect will and seek his direction and wisdom, as I take next steps for my life. Lessons learned:
1. Make sure your church or Pastor has not become an idol in your life. If they have then place God back on the Throne. Seek HIS Divine purpose for your life.
2. Vent UP
3. Understand the position you hold does not define you! It is not your identity.
4. Seek God to have a clear direction on His calling on your life. I know I’m called to ministry within the local church for this season in my life. This understanding has guided me in hard decisions.
5. Seek guidance from trusted friends, ministry partners, and mentors outside of your church. You need to have people at your accountability table that only care about you; not your church, ministry, or your boss. Have people that can give you neutral and unbiased advice.
6. Don’t kill yourself trying to understand because you may never understand.
7. Surround yourself with friends and family
8. Take all the time you need to heal. That process looks different for everyone.
9. Embrace the wilderness experience. It’s lonely at times but it’s what the Lord is using to work out the kinks and build character in you.
10. Know that you are not forgotten by God during this season. It may feel like it at times, but know God remembers you.
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